Tired of Second-Guessing Every Decision?

Life gets heavy when second-guessing becomes your default. From overanalyzing every choice to replaying decisions long after you’ve made them, it’s easy to wonder: Am I really allowed to trust myself again?

In this episode of Trusting Her Journey, we talk about what it looks like to rebuild confidence and stop outsourcing your decisions to everyone else. Whether you’re replaying past mistakes, comparing your choices to others, or waiting for a cosign before moving forward, this conversation will help you practice permission—permission to trust your own wisdom again.

• You’ll hear real stories, honest struggles, and practical tools to help you
• Recognize how second-guessing shows up in your everyday life
• Name the fears that keep you stuck in doubt
• Practice small “reps” of self-trust without waiting for perfection
• Anchor your confidence in God’s wisdom, not endless approva

We’ll also name the quiet patterns many women overlook:
✨ Why waiting for five cosigns feels safer—but keeps you stuck
✨ How comparison makes you question your own wisdom
✨ Why past mistakes don’t disqualify you from future trust
✨ The difference between inspiration and comparison—and why one builds confidence while the other tears it down

💡 Fuel for the Road Ahead:
Self-trust doesn’t mean you’ll never make a mistake. It means believing God is with you, even if things don’t turn out perfectly—and trusting you’re strong enough to adjust, recover, and move forward.

💭 Reflection Question:
Where have you been abandoning your own wisdom? And what’s one way you can return to it this week?

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to the Trust in Her Journey podcast. I'm Felicia

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and I'm Krystalyn.

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This podcast is a safe space for women who are carrying a lot, women who are trying to trust themselves again while managing the weight of their roles and responsibilities.

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We know what it's like to feel stretched thin because you're constantly showing up for everyone and putting your own needs last. Here we have honest conversations about the silent struggles many women face.

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We're so glad you're here and every episode So we'll talk about the real challenges women navigate, whether it's juggling work and family, carving out time for yourself, or learning to trust your instincts again.

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You'll hear us share personal stories and lessons from our experience to help you trust your path and rethink what peace and balance actually looks like for you.

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Our goal is to guide you through the hard moments with honest conversations about boundaries, self-care, and leaning on your faith for strength.

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If you've been feeling overwhelmed overwhelmed, unseen, or unsure about how to care for yourself while caring for everyone else, you're in the right place.

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Just a quick heads up. This podcast isn't a substitute for working with a licensed counselor or therapist, but don't worry. If you need that kind of support, we've got some resources for you in the show notes. Let's start the conversation.

SPEAKER_02 1:23

Hey, Felicia. Hey, how are you? I'm doing good today. How are you feeling today? I'm feeling pretty good. You look so pretty.

SPEAKER_00 1:33

Oh, thank you, girl. You know, I love a little cheetah, leopard moment and a red lip, so thank you. I am glad to see you in the land of the living, feeling much better. Girl,

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because school started and it tried to take me and my baby out, all them germs. I can't believe

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it. Yeah. know what it's that it's that time of year so I'm like trying to prepare myself prepare the household I'm like I need to get vitamins I just got some Lysol you know spray that book bag down girl because

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I'm not trying everything wipe it down

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but you want to know what's so wild is like this increase in COVID cases that I'm hearing now that I know COVID never went anywhere y'all but it's just kind of like why are we back at this again? Why am I hearing so many people? I

SPEAKER_02 2:28

don't know. Well, people don't wash their hands.

SPEAKER_00 2:32

You're right about that.

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You felt that? I do not have any medical degree whatsoever. However, people don't wash their hands.

SPEAKER_00 2:43

No, that's real. They don't

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cover their mouth when they cough.

SPEAKER_00 2:48

Yeah. And you know what? I've been trying to control my facial reactions reactions and my responses in public when I hear people coughing and not covering their mouth or sneezing I always have this look like oh my god but you know I'm like girl that's so rude but it's the true word it's so real just nasty no manners whatsoever no home training whatsoever but okay all that to say I'm glad that you're here. I'm glad we're here and you're feeling much better. Today, we wanted to kind of get into this, I think, quiet question that we may often have, but we never want to say out loud. And it's, can I really trust myself? And I believe that this question shows up in so many different ways. And just to name a few, like, can I trust myself to start the business? Can I trust myself to love again, to find the right partner, to make the right choice as a parent? Even the little things around, and I don't even just want to say little things. So I'm saying that with air quotes, but more so around like, can I trust myself not to mess this up again? That is what we're doing. diving into today we're talking about um that question that we often have around is it safe for me to trust myself again and what that could look like in our lives

SPEAKER_02 4:37

yeah um it is a common question maybe a lot of women don't say it out loud but it's definitely something we're thinking right so let's talk about then why the struggle runs so deep what and what does it really Right. So we are not immune to any of these struggles. But Felicia, why do you think so many of us are struggling with trusting our own voices, trusting ourselves?

SPEAKER_00 5:11

I honestly think we struggle to trust ourselves because we're so used to receiving or asking the opinion of other people. And we do that because it feels safe. Like it's the safer option. We can say things like, well, if I go with someone else's opinion and it doesn't work, I'm going to just blame them. At least I can say, well, Krystalyn told me to do that. And that was never my decision or I didn't think about that before. But if I actually go with mine and I fail, or if you go with your own decision or make your own decision, and you fail, it becomes much harder and you have to sit with that. And so many feelings can come up when you are sitting with a choice that you made that maybe does not align with you and where you're at and it doesn't work out. So I think it feels safer.

SPEAKER_02 6:15

Yeah, it does feel safer. Well, and if you made it look good, right? If the choices if we're facing some a similar decision or similar choice and it looked like it worked for you it looked like it worked for felicia i maybe i asked you how you came up with your decision or maybe i didn't but i'm comparing maybe that's what i'm searching for yeah i'm comparing my life to yours so it looks like it worked for you so i'm gonna try i'm gonna try and do it that way too

SPEAKER_00 6:47

yeah um what about you what do you

SPEAKER_02 6:50

think though well i think that's one of the things i think compared Comparison is one of the reasons why we struggle with trusting ourselves so much. I'm always looking to the left or the right, wondering how other people, how they got that relationship they got, how they got the car they have, how do they have the job they have, why does their business look like it's growing and all of these things. I'm comparing my life to theirs. And so if my life doesn't look like it's measuring up, I might be second guessing the decisions I've made, maybe questioning some of the choices. And I know a lot of women struggle with that and social media plays in. I know it gets a bad rep because it does get blamed for a lot of stuff, but it is responsible for a lot of why we struggle with how we feel about ourselves and why we struggle with trusting that the decisions that we make are best for us. I hear a lot of women also say things like, well, it didn't work out so good for me last time. I already messed up too many things. times right and so their past mistakes become part of this um unhealthy way of looking at themselves so instead of saying I made a mistake it'll be okay next time I'll just keep trying again it turns into I am a mistake or all I do is make mistakes I can't ever seem to get it right and so then they stop trusting themselves

SPEAKER_00 8:16

yeah and I think if we want to add an additional layer to that so many of us were raised in environments where our voices didn't always matter and we And if we can be honest, definitely in some faith based spaces, we often heard do not lean on your own understanding. And sometimes we weren't taught that there can be a balance between like, hey, I'm not leaning on my own understanding, but I also can have a say in the decisions that I'm making. I can also process those things on my own. And so Right. Which then plays a role in us making a decision or trusting ourselves or leaning on our own wisdom to guide us through whatever season we are in in life.

SPEAKER_02 9:40

Right. So what I hear you saying is you're not saying don't seek God for understanding. No. Right. We're not saying that. We're saying part of the understanding and the wisdom that we have should come from God. But we got to trust the God that we're praying. into. So

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yeah.

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Yeah. So Felicia,

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that was okay. All right. Yeah. I'm tracking you.

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Yeah. So then if I don't, if I feel like I made so many mistakes, if I, or because I feel like, yeah, It's hard to move forward because I've made so many mistakes. I feel like, you know, I've got this voice in my ear. Maybe it's my mamas, my grandmamas, whoever telling me, girl, don't, you know, don't lean on your understanding. But they missed the part, right? They didn't give me the, give it to me, explain it to me in a way that I can actually apply that scripture to my everyday present life. There's this pressure I feel to always get it right, to not mess up, to not make mistakes, right? because things look perfect for me in social media world or from me just watching your life from afar, all these different things. Why do you think... Why do you think then, or do you think that's part of why so many women do just, let me consult a friend. Let me keep asking as many people as I need to ask. I trust these people. So, right. We're not just saying that women that we're asking people who we don't really trust. I trust them. But why do you think more of us are willing to trust other people's opinions, trust other people's voice over our own?

SPEAKER_00 11:34

You know, it goes back again to what I mentioned before, just the satiation. Yeah. because of that, there's also another piece where as women, you know, we are socialized to believe that our values lie in agreement, not original thought whatsoever. So if we, we often feel that we're being disloyal when our decisions don't necessarily match the people that we're going to. So the group, if they don't align, then we feel like like, hey, I'm the black sheep. I am the one that's being disloyal. I'm like, it's all on me. So I'm just going to agree from here on out. I'm just going to ask these people for this advice around this. And I'm just going to go with what they say, because I feel like they already have it together. And it goes back to what you mentioned. A lot of us watch people that we know, community members, our village, whatever around us. And if Life seems as if it's going well and the decisions that they're making is landing them with a high figure paying job or more opportunities or a healthy relationship or marriage or kids, whatever it is that we want. Of course, we're going to say, I'm going to go to that person and ask for their advice, but not really taking into account like their life is not your life. The way that you process things is not your life. It's not the way that they process things, you know, two different seasons. But we're still going to look to them because it's just like, hey, they already have what I want. And because they have what I want, I'm going to follow that voice because it's going to get me there.

SPEAKER_02 13:53

Right. Well, so I hear I mentioned comparison and you're pointing out that that's not healthy. It's not a healthy way of living. Now, we're not saying you can't be inspired. It's a difference there. There is a difference, right? So if I'm inspired by you, I could see that there's possibility. God did it for her. He can do it for me. I'm not comparing my life, but it gives me hope that I can move forward, that I can get through whatever the thing is that even if it's something like starting a business, even if it's something like getting pregnant, if that's something you struggle with, right? I'm not comparing my life. Oh, I want two kids because that's what she got or the job because that's how that's what she has. but oh God, that's something I know she struggled with infertility. So I'm going to be okay too. It's a possibility that I'm going to be okay too. Girl, what doctor did you see? For example, I see your practice is full. How did you do that? I'm not comparing my life to yours. I'm using what you've been able to overcome or get through as inspiration. And that is a huge, huge difference.

SPEAKER_00 15:03

Yeah, because with inspiration, you're learning to like, okay, this is what I want, which you just named, but I'm trusting myself to get there in my own way. So I can ask for advice from you, but I'm also going to listen to my inner voice, use my gut,

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my

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own wisdom to then say like, okay, let, let me move here. Let me focus on this. But it sounds like there's a muscle that you're using, even in those moments of inspiration. And it sounds like self-trust. It does. It is. It is. Okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 15:43

Yep. So being inspired actually invites you to trust yourself because you know, well, my voice matters to my opinion. My input matters too, but through what God might be have done, maybe has done for you. I can see what's possible. I'm not comparing. I'm not, um, less than after what you have, I could just now see what's possible. God is helping me to see what's possible. I think that hopefully that resonates with some of our listeners. Hopefully it does.

SPEAKER_00 16:24

No, I agree. Okay. So even when we kind of talk about that a little bit more, I'm curious to hear from our own, the way that we work in our therapy practice What are some of the things? So let's just say a client was to show up and say like, hey, I'm having a hard time trusting myself or they don't even know that, you know, they're listening to other people and they lack a level of self-trust. Do you feel that confidence play a role in that? Or do you feel like that's not even because we've talked about comparison and inspiration, but do you feel confidence also play a role in our inability to trust ourselves?

SPEAKER_02 17:13

I think it does play a big role because a lot of us think that part of the way we build confidence is to Well, I don't know if we really know how to build confidence. I think maybe that's the issue. I've shared with clients before, you know, there's a lot of things that you are just not going to know how to do and that's okay. The doing is how you build confidence. You are, a lot of things you're going to be afraid to try and that's fine. How you lessen the fear is to do the thing that you're scared or afraid to do. That's how you become more confident. That's That's how you gain your strength. Right. Just like when going to the gym, you're not going to feel as strong if you weightlifted the first couple of days because that's just the way it is. You have to stretch the muscle and rebuild it and all the things. And so that is part of that is part of the struggle. We think we're just we wait until we feel confident

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to

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do a thing, to make a decision when we don't recognize that the waiting, that's not part of the that's not part of the solution. The solution is to do the thing. And that's how you become

SPEAKER_00 18:35

more confident. I do have confidence in the fact that I may make a mistake and I don't want to make a mistake and I don't want to fail. So it's this thing where if I'm hearing you correctly, it's like there's a fear that's present to actually make a decision or take our own advice or even follow our own wisdom. And that's natural. That's natural. Fear is there. The confidence will come when we continue to trust ourselves so we're exercising that muscle of self-trust. And every time that we actually tap into our own wisdom, we are building confidence in that area. Okay. All right. So what would that look like though for, and I'm thinking more around like, hey, I am, we work with these women and they're like, I feel like I want to trust myself, but I really can't. I'm stuck in this loop and they do have the evidence and it feels like a permanent record all of those things are showing up what are some practical tools that we could give them to kind of help them exercise that muscle in a different way

SPEAKER_02 20:13

right so let's talk about the evidence first right so how part of what a lot of clients struggle with is I have made so many mistakes the relationship didn't work out the business failed um those are like the top ones

SPEAKER_00 20:28

yeah

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from some of my clients you have to share about yours but um so now i'm feeling like i can't i'm scared to do this thing i'm frozen i'm not i'm not able to i feel stuck is the expression a lot of women use i feel stuck and so now i'm doubting myself i'm doubting my ability to make a decision can i choose the right partner last time i left this job and started business or went to a different position at my current job Like that didn't turn out too good. So now I can't trust myself. I can't trust myself. I thought I heard God say to move or to do the thing. And it didn't really turn out the way that I wanted them to. What are some of the things some of your clients say? Or is it some of the same thing?

SPEAKER_00 21:10

It's some of the same things. But I really hear more so around like, you know, this person is in this season of life. They're married. They have this. They are making this decision with relationships. But I'm making a difference. decision. Again, it goes back to the comparison. I often hear things like, I'm stuck. I'm numb. I don't know what decisions to make. I'm afraid to put myself out there again. I'm afraid to make a decision, especially when they have kind of dug themselves out of a situation that they were in before that did not feel good. And so it's like, I've done this work. I've really worked hard Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:24

So the traumas of life and sometimes the dramas of life.

SPEAKER_00 22:29

Yes.

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But the traumas of life help us to be overly cautious.

SPEAKER_00 22:35

Yeah.

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Because we're trying to survive in environments where there's so much uncertainty because before I thought I knew what I was getting into. I thought I was making the best choice and it didn't work out the way I thought it was going to, the way I hoped it would. So now I can't move forward. So how do we actually start practicing trusting ourselves again right so what we mentioned before was the whole confidence piece confidence does not come before choice it grows after we make the choice so waiting to feel ready to do something that's actually the opposite of what we should be doing

SPEAKER_00 23:11

yeah another one is just realizing that permission isn't one big moment like it's truly a daily practice again it goes back to the muscle reps and if we're thinking about working out and getting Mm-hmm. You're giving yourself permission to actually build the muscle and build the confidence as you go.

SPEAKER_02 24:03

Yes, right. And trusting yourself does not mean you will never make a mistake.

SPEAKER_00 24:08

Absolutely not. Trusting

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yourself does not mean you won't ever miss the mark or you won't get it wrong. It just means that you're learning to trust that you are resilient enough to recover.

SPEAKER_01 24:18

That

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you can learn, that you can reset, that you can pivot and try again. Yeah. Right. And

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Aaliyah said, that's the best I've ever talked about. We don't realize the capacity that we actually have to bounce back from things that we believe were meant to destroy us or the things that we felt were so devastating. So again, I love that. But here's how you can actually practice the permission, like giving yourself permission. So we love the idea of like writing yourself a permission slip so I can trust myself. Right. Right. that you are speaking over yourself will actually benefit you.

SPEAKER_02 25:58

Right. So I 100% agree. I have lots of little post-its and cards on my computer that remind me of who I am and the things that I have overcome, things I've accomplished, and the things that I can get through or go through. Part of what I had to do first was to identify the thing that I was even afraid of, right? So that's another thing I look can do they can name the fear out loud I'm afraid that if I choose blank this is what's going to happen I'm afraid that if because this is a way to challenge the fear we want to see if it's even the fear you want to hold on to let's be honest right because some of us are in a love affair with these fears in the past all the things but we'll talk about that another episode but what is it you're actually afraid of are you afraid of success are you afraid of failing are you afraid of being disappointed are you afraid What is it you're afraid of? And then you can give yourself permission to just practice confidence, practice building the muscle to trust yourself, to stop abandoning yourself by just not making a choice. Well, I read or heard somewhere that not making the choice is the choice. That is the decision you made. You decided not to do anything, but that's self-abandonment.

SPEAKER_00 27:19

Yes.

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So, and we don't want to live a life where we're always only just neglecting ourselves. own needs, neglecting our dreams, neglecting our desires. So give yourself permission to make a choice, practice it every day. What's something else they could try?

SPEAKER_00 27:34

You know, even when you mentioned like name of the fear, it led me to a space of like doing a voice audit because sometimes the fears that we are holding on to, they're not even ours. They are fears from people that we were, you know, trying to get the advice from or people that we have been around in our environment so even using like after you name the fear I want you to then do a voice audit and say to yourself whose voice am I listening to most right now is it God's is it mine or is it other people and again nine times out of ten if you're like trying to make decisions on your own and you're like submitting or even surrendering those thoughts or choices that you have to make to God, he's going to give you the answer. So it's more so of like, why am I focused more on other people's opinions or decisions than I am on God's and then my own? So we should actually go God, then mine versus theirs, theirs, and then theirs again. And God is nowhere in the mix. That's true. That's

SPEAKER_02 28:50

true. But that's why it's important for us to limit our input. Yeah. Limit the people. The Bible tells us to seek wise counsel. How do we know the person is wise? Well, look at their look at their life. Look at the fruit. That's not me saying compare. But look at their life.

SPEAKER_00 29:09

Yeah. And is that the life or the fruit that you want to bear? That's that's the follow up question again, which will go back to your own voice.

SPEAKER_02 29:18

Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So hopefully that helps. So even when you limit to who you are seeking wise counsel from, two people, Max, two people that you trust, two people whose lives you are inspired by, whose advice you value, because those things that they are encouraging you to do, the ways that they support you, those things also align with a life that you know God wants you to be living. It's not going to be the same kind of discomfort you feel when you're growing because that's healthy discomfort but it's going to be a kind of discomfort like oh this this don't even align with my values

SPEAKER_01 30:01

this

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is not okay so that's some hopefully that's something that you all can keep in mind as you're deciding how you want to begin to trust yourself again

SPEAKER_00 30:15

I agree. Okay. Give us some scripture to help, you know, anchor us in like actually trusting ourselves and then leaning on wise counsel, but also centering God at, you know, in the middle of like the decisions that we are making.

SPEAKER_02 30:31

So James 1, verses 5 through 8, and I'm going to read the Christian standard version. Now, if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God for help. who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly and it will be given to him but let him ask in faith without doubting for the doubter is like the surging sea driven and tossed by the wind that person should not expect to receive anything from the lord being double-minded and unstable in all his ways one of the main reasons why we struggle to trust ourselves is because deep down we don't always trust god we don't always trust that god is guiding us we say we believe god is faithful i don't know that we really truly believe that sometimes we pray for wisdom then we second guess the wisdom that we got that god gives us um james says that god gives us wisdom generously he does not find fault so even if you did make a mistake yesterday or every day

SPEAKER_01 31:39

he's

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still gonna give you more wisdom just because you messed up doesn't mean you aren't gonna be granted more wisdom God does not hold it's not he's not holding it hostage the problem is we ask for wisdom and we still doubt we ask for God to show us a sign to reveal things to us God give us more clarity and we still doubt um I don't sometimes I have even found myself saying well what did I really hear from God like I thought I did yeah maybe God was talking but maybe that wasn't about me maybe that wasn't for me maybe I was wrong Let me ask one more person. I'm going to just text Felicia and see what she thinks. I just need one more sign. God, if you just show me one more sign. What we're really trying to do is get a backup plan, a foolproof backup plan. And that is the double-mindedness that James is talking about in this scripture. The message version even says, you're just trying to keep all your options open, right? When you are trying to get five people to co-sign, when you're waiting for another sign, that's just you trying to keep your... I'll speak for me. That has been me trying to keep all of my options open. And I know that I'm not the only one. We have already, so many times, I've already had a script or an idea, a picture in my mind for what I want the outcome to be. I already know. This is how I want it to go. This is how I want the relationship to turn out. This is how I want the job. Heck, this is how I want the day to go. This is how I want my kid's life to look. And then we ask God to try to bless what we already decided. So your mind is already made up what we're going to him for. But Psalms 37 doesn't just say that God's going to give me the desires of my heart. It says he will, he will, it doesn't say he's going to give me my heart's desires. It says he will give me the desires of my heart. And there's a difference. That means that God is going to shape what I actually long for. He is going to give me the things that I actually crave. He is going to give me the things that I really want, not just the stuff I can't stop thinking about. He's going to give me desire. I'm going to desire the things that I actually need. Does this mean I'm not going to have trips in nice clothes? That's not, it's not about that. Yes, some of us are blessed to have those things, even though we want those things. And I think it's okay to have nice stuff and you can call it a blessing or not, but that's not the point. The point is so many times I think we get detoured or distracted. Because we've already decided that this is how I want my life to be, my life to shape, be shaped. This is how I want my life to turn out. And that's not what God wants for us sometimes. Sometimes the thing didn't work out because it wasn't supposed to. Sometimes that's why it doesn't work out. So maybe God didn't come through, not because you didn't hear him, but because that's not what he had in store for you. Crystal Lynn. So once I realize that I don't want to be unstable or double-minded, I don't want to keep trying to come up with a backup plan for my backup plan. I want to let God shape my desires so that the outcome can look the way he wants it to look, not the way I planned it. Then I can have peace. That's where the peace that I cannot explain or understand comes from. Faith, Plus wisdom. gives me the confidence to move forward, even when I do not understand what the outcome is going to be. Even if I can't sometimes see the whole complete picture, I don't need every detail. I do not need a lot of guarantees. I don't need a lot of backup plans, and I definitely don't need everybody else's approval. What I need is to have faith that God is who he says he is, and that I can trust that he's going to be with me, even when things don't turn out perfect. So instead of me asking, asking, am I allowed to trust myself? Can I trust myself not to mess up and not to make a mistake? I want to be asking, I want our listeners to start asking themselves, am I willing to trust the God who's already guiding me? Am I willing to trust the God who's already given me wisdom? Am I willing to trust the God who's going to give me strength, who's going to give me peace, who promised me all of these things? Am I going to trust that God?

SPEAKER_00 36:28

Okay. How do we help our listeners tie that into like a one... Give me one sentence that we can help our listeners tie all of this together in terms of like, okay, I am trusting myself again. I'm not trying to lean on other people. What would you tell them?

SPEAKER_02 36:51

I would tell them that... If you believe that God is faithful to do the things that the Bible says God is going to do, to do exceedingly above all the things that we can even ask or think, then you can trust that he's going to give you clarity and wisdom to know what's the best next thing for you to do. Maybe not for the next five or 10 years. Remember we talked last episode, you don't need a plan that long sometimes, but just the next best thing for you to do. Trust God more than you trust yourself and all these other people first.

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Good. Okay. So that leads us into, you know, excuse me, our rest stop. She had me choked up from all of those scriptures. And I'm like, I need to go back and write this down a little bit more. But here's the truth. Like, we want you to carry this with you. The question isn't again, what should I do next? The real question is, do I believe I can trust the woman that God is shaping me into? Because Because if you don't settle that, you'll keep down every decision, even the ones God already answered. So instead of asking yourself about the next step, like she just said, I want you to sit with this. Where have I been treating myself like the one person who can't be trusted? Is it in parenting? Is it in love? Is it in purpose? Wherever it is, name it because

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you

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can't heal what you won't name.

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That applies to so much, doesn't it?

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Yeah,

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so many different areas. Y'all, we are not the sum of our past mistakes. We aren't. You don't have to keep putting the things that you've done that you don't think turned out right or the mistakes you've made. You don't have to keep putting that stuff on a loop. You don't have to be your own inner critic or bully all the time. You don't have to keep replaying the worst case scenarios you don't have to keep doing that what if things do turn out okay you are a woman carrying the spirit of God inside of you so the question is no longer can I really trust myself the question is will I stop abandoning myself long enough to agree with the God who has never left me how do I know he's never left me look down at your hands take a breath Take a deep breath in and out. That's how you know he hasn't left you.

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Wow. So that's the reflection for this week. Not what's my next move, but where have I been abandoning my own wisdom and how will I return to it?

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And all the people you get advice from, share with them too. Not in a shady way, but just so they can support you around like, hey, come back to yourself. I promise it wasn't shady, y'all.

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All right. Stay tuned till next time. We'll see y'all. Peace.

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