Why You Feel So Overwhelmed Right Now

Have you been feeling like everything is “too much” lately? 

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to be at capacity and why feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re overreacting, broken, or failing. 

It might mean you’ve been carrying more than you were ever meant to carry. 

We reflect on how many of us grew up watching women who rarely rested, how that shaped our relationship with slowing down, and why doing nothing can feel uncomfortable… even when our bodies are begging for it. 

This conversation is an invitation to: 

• Notice when you’re doing too much
• Release what God never asked you to carry
• Stop shaming yourself for needing rest

If you’ve been feeling on edge, exhausted, irritated, or emotionally maxed out, this episode is for you. 

Reflection Question:
What’s the biggest thing draining me right now? 

You’re not weak.
You’re not behind.
You’re not overreacting. 

You might just be at capacity. 

And being at capacity is not your identity it’s a signal. 

Lower the load.
Give yourself permission to breathe. 

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

There's a scripture that talks about tomorrow worrying about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. So we don't have to keep dragging tomorrow into today. Today is already enough.

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Welcome to the Trust in Her Journey podcast. I'm Felicia.

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And I'm Crystaline.

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This podcast is a safe space for women who are caring a lot, women who are trying to trust themselves again while managing the weight of their roles and responsibilities.

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We know what it's like to feel stretched thin because you're constantly showing up for everyone and putting your own needs last. Here we have honest conversations about the solid struggles many women face.

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We're so glad you're here. In every episode, we'll talk about the real challenges women navigate, whether it's juggling work and family, carving out time for yourself, or learning to trust your instincts again.

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You'll hear us share personal stories and lessons from our experience to help you trust your path and rethink what peace and balance actually looks like for you.

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Our goal is to guide you through the hard moments with honest conversations about boundaries, self-care, and leaning on your faith for strength.

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If you've been feeling overwhelmed, unseen, or unsure about how to care for yourself while caring for everyone else, you're in the right place.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

Just a quick heads up: this podcast isn't a substitute for working with a licensed counselor or therapist. But don't worry, if you need that kind of support, we've got some resources for you in the show notes. Let's start the conversation.

SPEAKER_02 1:47

Hey y'all, I'm Felicia. Welcome back. Hey Felicia. How you doing today? I'm doing good. Look, now you sound like how I sounded too long ago.

SPEAKER_01 2:01

I know, right? We're we're bouncing germs back and forth and feel like it we're not even seeing each other. But you know what? I am pushing through. I had some tea. I took some meds. I got my water right here. So um, y'all, if you hear me coughing, I apologize. I'm gonna try not to do that in your ear, but it it may happen. It's all right, it's okay.

SPEAKER_02 2:23

All right, yes. I'm glad to be able to record today.

SPEAKER_01 2:27

Yeah. With life happening and life is happening, things are happening. Um, at the time, you'll probably hear this episode, of course, after we record, but there's a big storm coming through. So I think we're both in this space of um preparation and trying to get all of the things. So I am grateful that we are able to still record today. And I feel like just even thinking about preparing for the storm and just like the start of the new year, all of the things, it feels like it aligns with this episode, if I may so today's episode is truly for the woman who has been trying her best. Like she's been trying her best, she's been doing all of the things. Um, she may even be saying, as my family members say, I'm hanging on by a needle in a thread.

SPEAKER_02 3:29

So yeah, that's what we mean. Yeah. For the purpose of this conversation when we say she's trying her best, because she likely may be close to wit's end, whatever that means for her. Um, one more thing happened, one more email, one more text, one more person calling the name.

SPEAKER_01 3:54

Oh yes, one more question, one more sound.

SPEAKER_02 3:59

I just yeah. Why you chewing so loud? Why are you laughing so loud? It's just too much.

SPEAKER_01 4:09

And no, seriously though, it it does feel like when all of those things are happening at once, you you may say to yourself, like, I really cannot take one more thing. Like, I can't take another sound, I can't take another email, another text, another question.

SPEAKER_02 4:27

Yes, yes. Um, I often I found myself saying to clients often lately, especially, if all of the things that were happening were happening on their own, you would more likely be able to manage them, to be able to navigate it. So the fact that you can't is not an indication of anything. You're not overreacting, you're not being too much, doing too much, being dramatic, none of that. You are likely at your capacity because you can't do too much at once.

SPEAKER_01 5:00

Yeah, yeah. And you want to know what's interesting. I'm learning this even about myself and just like the women that I have the honor of working with. A lot of times the question comes up like, you know, what is wrong with me? Like, why am I this way? Why do I feel so irritated? Why am I so tired? Why can't I focus? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 5:27

Um, why do I need the ADHD?

SPEAKER_01 5:29

Listen, why do I need everybody and everything to just stop? And I'm gonna be a hundred percent real. I just had this conversation last night um with my husband. I was just like, man, I just feel like I cannot find clarity right now. I just I'm so irritated with everything, even the smallest things. It feels like I'm doing too much. The kids make one noise. I'm like, why is it so loud? Now my daughter is like, y'all, mommy, stimulated. She stimulated. Oh baby, does she even know? Girl, she just hear me say, I am so overstimulated by toys, people touch it, all of that. So now she's looking at me like, mommy, stimulated. And I'm like, please leave this. This is why I'm over stimulated. This is why.

SPEAKER_02 6:24

Yeah, I get it. And my daughter, well, she's a little bit older, yeah. But it is funny because she will, I'll say, Hey, mama needs a minute. I need five minutes of quiet. Don't ask me no questions. I can't talk to y'all right now. And then she'll go and say, Daddy, daddy, mama, mommy says she needs her quiet time. She needs her quiet time. Like, let me go ahead and prepare him too, so he won't get his head chopped off. Yes, and you know, maybe that is being dramatic. However, it's real life, and that doesn't mean we're crazy. And I know for me and for you, that don't mean we're weak either. Not at all. We don't want to fall apart and we don't want to be snapping at our family members, the people we love. Yeah, we also don't want to shut down, yeah. So we have to do something to be able to take care of ourselves, something different.

SPEAKER_01 7:16

Yes, I agree a hundred percent. So, with that being said, today we are talking about just the the idea of like how do we actually move away from the emotional overload that could be like the decision fatigue, sensory fatigue. But I know that those are like trending and buzzing words right now, but we're gonna talk about it more from like a real life. This is this exists and this happens in my life because we really want, it's not for you all to, I would say, walk away like, wow, that was educational. Like we always want you to learn something. But we we're also talking about this in this episode because we do want you all to walk away like, oh wow, that's what's actually happening right now. As you mentioned earlier, I am not quote unquote crazy, I'm not being dramatic, I'm not weak. Like this is something that's really happening um to me right now. And I I need some tools to actually work through this.

SPEAKER_02 8:28

Yeah, very nicely, Felicia. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 8:31

Of course. Because, you know, even and and the reason why I say like some tools to work through this, because my initial thought even last night was just like, how do I fix this? It was like, you need to fix this, you need to figure out a way to fix this, you need to fix you. And I think the more that I kind of processed it when I was in the shower, when I got out the shower, I was like, I don't know if you necessarily need to fix you or fix the thing. You just need some tools to help you navigate this space that you're probably gonna go sit down somewhere. Okay, you didn't have to say it like that, but a hundred percent true. I just need to sit down and stop trying to plan out the future and plan out all of the things and just calm my mind. So, yeah, you're right.

SPEAKER_02 9:21

Yeah, I get it. So if you are having overwhelmed, overstimulated, drained, all the things, feeling like you're getting ready to crash out, then this episode is for you. All right, let's talk about it, Felicia. The first question I want to ask, which you kind of already answered, but I was maybe you can kind of um tell us a little bit more about how you why how you think you got there. Um you felt like you probably maybe even should have been fine, but you weren't. Like if one more thing happened, I already know head's gonna roll. Yeah. Was that last night or was that another time?

SPEAKER_01 9:59

I think it was, hmm, I would say, yeah, it was last night, but it probably really started earlier in the week, I would say. And I kind of kept telling myself, like, okay, you're fine, you're okay, but I think the signs were kind of leading up to it. It was just like small things that, you know, kept happening. Um, like, for instance, earlier this week, uh my account got hacked. I was like, what the heck? I mean, other people out was out there spending sis, like going in. But, you know, at the time I was like, okay, let me keep this to myself. I don't want to put this on anyone else. Thank God I still have the funds to do the things that I need to do, so I'm not gonna stress over it. So it was that. And then something else happened um during the work week with work, and I was like, are you kidding me? And then, you know, I told you about the whole situation with my son's daycare where every teacher called in, but a few because they had the flu. And then he starts coughing. Now I'm coughing, and I was like, if one more thing happened, I'm gonna fall off the handle. And I think last night was that moment of if something else happens, I'm I feel like I'm gonna lose it. Um, but I was trying to convince myself that I was fine because even while talking to like my mom, she was like, How you doing? You don't sound like yourself. I'm like, I'm fine, I'm okay, you know. And I know she knows the difference and just like my tone, but I'm like, I'm fine, I'm okay. And then when I hung up, I was in fact not fine because I started going down this rabbit hole, like, you know, fixing things. So I think that's just like a glimpse of all of the things that kind of happened this week. And in the moment, I was like, you are being dramatic because these things aren't a big deal, but when you add one on top of the other, it feels like a lot.

SPEAKER_02 12:03

Because they were happening all at once. So that's like you standing there, and then someone comes and they put this big weight in your hand and they here, hold us, and then they go away and come back, and here, hold us, and then they go away and they come, and you have to hold all these things. Of course, you could hold the one weight, maybe two. Yeah, or you could handle your kid being sick. You know, you've dealt with that before, yeah. And you could handle even we're trying to prepare for the storm, you have dealt with that before, but then add on the work stress and then add on your account getting hacked, yeah. Just keep adding things that I know you hadn't even and won't even mention in this recording, right? Yeah, like this is too much, and that is what the purpose of this conversation is, right? The way we talk to ourselves or about ourselves when a lot of things are happening at once, again, and we'll I know we will never say this enough, but to say this enough, it's just not how you would talk to someone you care about. If another person said they were dealing with the same thing, half of the stuff you just mentioned. Yeah. Like, okay, all right, let's think about a way to take care of yourself. You wouldn't say, Are you being dramatic?

SPEAKER_01 13:16

Right. No, that is true. I will not say that.

SPEAKER_02 13:22

So it's just it's so important for us to be really mindful of how we talk to ourselves when we are under the pressure that we are under, or just when we just do in life and a lot is happening, and maybe at a time it doesn't feel like pressure, it's just stressful stuff happening, but it's happening at the same time, it's all happening at once, and there's no expectation for you to just be um seeing a joyful noise while you are doing it. Yes, and everything gives thanks. Yes, God, I am so grateful that I still have money in my account and that this hacking didn't take me down to zero. And I'm angry because someone violated me. Right. I'm angry that people give their kids medicine and send them to school. They should keep them home with their germs. And I'm grateful that we can send our baby to the doctor. Like both are both are true, and that's not complaining, and that's God is okay with our human experiences being verbalized in a way that's just us processing, being yes um intentional about not just kind of stuffing our feelings under a carpet. He's okay with that.

SPEAKER_01 14:34

Yeah, I love that you mentioned that because oftentimes what I hear, and and we've kind of talked about this before, is just the the thought that you only have to hold on to gratitude, like you can't hold space for your other emotions and feelings around a situation happening. So I love that you even brought that up. Like I'm grateful for this, and this still made me so upset. Like this ticked me off. And I think for any woman that's kind of like, okay, this is me, uh, I this resonates with me. I feel like I see myself in these things that we're sharing. I think it's important for us to also give you some practical tools around, like, so how do I navigate this when I feel like my body is just carrying too much or my mind is carrying too much and I no longer can operate at this capacity. What should I do?

SPEAKER_02 15:34

Yeah, so let's do three because I think three is easy to remember. We have lots of things that you everybody could try. Um, I want to talk about three things. Well, I'll talk about one thing that I know works for me, and then Felicia, you could share some things that work for you. So one thing that works for me, and I kind of alluded to it earlier, was lowering the noise. Because I look and I have one child. And so for for our household, that a lot of the times, um, so I'm the parent, I I'm fun, but I'm not the funny mom. Daddy is the one that he's gonna do all the things, they're gonna be shooting nerve guns, they're gonna be doing my hide and seek, they're gonna do all the other things. Yeah, and I'm gonna be making sure that I can find a corner to hide in because they playing so I can take a little cat nap or scroll on my phone or respond to an email or whatever I need to do. And sometimes, depending on a lot of different factors, so say I'm overloaded, I hear a lot of my play or lives happen, their noise don't sound too pleasant to me. It just doesn't, I know they're just having fun. Right, it doesn't sound the laughter, just don't sound joyful. It's more like nails on chalkboard. Uh for me, that's just that is not, they're not trying to annoy me, obviously. Yeah, um but it's just a lot, it can be a lot when I'm at my capacity. So you have to find creative ways to lower the noise. And when we say noise, we ain't just talking about sound, talking about everything that's coming at you because you're already overwhelmed, so everything feels louder, right? The TV, everything.

SPEAKER_01 17:25

Yeah, so and your thoughts too. That that's the one that I think that's that's the highlighted part too. Um, your thoughts, other people's thoughts and opinions. Um, all of that, you're right, you have to lower the noise, you have to silence it. I think that's that's one of the main things, especially when I think about um, I I don't know, I don't know who said this the other day. Uh oh, I think I was listening to Molly Till's podcast, and she had mentioned something about like we now use the internet for everything to get every opinion, to find out all the latest stuff or whatever. And sometimes the spaces that we go to retrieve that information can be so loud that it leads us to feeling confused, it leads us to feeling overstimulated. And so hearing you say that it's just like, yeah, it's not just the noise from your family, it's also the outside thoughts and opinions that we absorb that then we try to figure out a way how to integrate that in our lives when we don't even really need to.

SPEAKER_02 18:34

Oh, yes. And that's why discernment is so important. Who should I be listening to? What should I be watching? Who should I call or text? Or is this a time where I need to just sit and be quiet with you? That kind of that's still prayer, that's still connection, that's still relationship. Our prayers don't have to be super formal, like we a lot of us were made to feel like they have to be. So, yes, put your phone on silent, turn the TV off, um, sit in your car for two minutes before you go to the house. Um, turn down the lights, um, try to get a full night's rest. Even for me, sometimes, like if I have to be in the company of my daughter for whatever the reasons are, I have one earbud in. And I'll be and I'll be listening to something that is calming for me, or something that's slightly entertaining for me because I noticed like I haven't laughed the way I needed to all day, or I just kind of want to, you know, kind of escape for a few minutes. Yeah. She knows it's not a secret. She knows, okay, mommy is with me because she likes parallel play. I think as an only child, that just kind of works for her. So as long as she's in the same space with us, sometimes she's okay. But whatever it is you need, um, give that to yourself. That is going to require you to assess to see what you need. Stop or pause.

SPEAKER_01 19:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:55

Breeze. 60 seconds, y'all. That's it. Just breathe. So are my shoulders tense? Or am I really, am I grinding my teeth? Is that what you're doing? Right? Or am I tapping my fingers more than I realize? Am I picking at my fingernails? What am I doing? Is my mouth dry? Is my head aching? Is my back tight? So that I can see, notice what it is, what does my body need at this moment in time? And the sooner you listen, the less likely you are to crash out later.

SPEAKER_01 20:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:29

Now I'm not, we does not guarantee y'all not. Yeah, we can't guarantee that you won't crash out. But we can vary a little reduction in the crash out, okay. Yeah. So maybe you won't crash out, or maybe your crash out won't last long, or I don't know. But just won't be as intense.

SPEAKER_01 20:49

Yeah, it won't be as intense, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:52

Yeah, you won't you can't come back from the I'm sorry, it won't be. So yeah, lower the noise, lower the noise. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 21:01

Um, I think for me, I love that one. Another one that I would say um is like lower your decisions that you have to make. Uh, that is a major one. I I hear often that people are just like decision fatigue. Like, I'm tired of making decisions about where are we eating, what time are we leaving, who's doing this, who's gonna be there. Did I email that person back? Did you email that person back? You know, what's the plan? What's next? You it it just feels like nonstop. Um, or what's for dinner, or you know, what outfit should I wear? I think all of those decisions that we have to make, while it's a part of our everyday routine, they can still become very overwhelming and stressful.

SPEAKER_02 21:51

Yes, yes. So when you outshared it from today's recording time, yeah, I was late. recording because I get was given I had given myself permission just to kind of be still this morning. My husband and I had breakfast together. We just kind of sat and looked out the window and we did not talk. We had some silliness on TV, you know, kind of handed our phones, videos on social media. It was just been a nice morning. I knew he had time to record. And as I was we're he and I were done and I was preparing to record and I'm like at my coffee, my water, just having a good old time. Yeah. Came and sat down at the computer to prepare to record, like get ready turned on. I was like I'm not trying to have my role on you were real relaxed. I was too relaxed. I and part of that I know too is because I I didn't have any decisions to make this morning.

SPEAKER_01 22:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:51

I didn't I all I had to decide was what time you and I were going to meet and what we want for breakfast. And that was easy. I just went and grabbed some things out of the fridge. But that was it after my daughter was off to school that was it. And so creating opportunities taking advantage of opportunities like that for ourselves for those of us who have the luxury of doing that and those who don't have that luxury creating opportunities like that where you can just have as few decisions to make as possible. It's going to be so important to how well you navigate whatever season you're in.

SPEAKER_01 23:30

Yeah I agree. And that can look like something as creating an outfit formula that you know you're going to wear and you don't have to think about it. Yes. That could also look like you know what here are the five meals that I'm cooking you may you may get fancy sprinkling nine to ten meals and you're like we put these on rotation like those things picking up some of the same staples that you use at the grocery store but not trying to figure out oh I saw this new recipe on TikTok or Pinterest or I saw this here. It's like you said reducing the amount of decisions that you have to make in a day could truly help you and like your nervous system your body just your mood because you free up space in your mind to just literally like you literally free up space in your mind to flow without overthinking without over planning it's just like this is off the table I'm going to repeat these things and if you don't want to eat sorry I don't know what to tell you but he here's here's how I'm operating that it was going to be Tuesday tacos so you should be getting your taste buds ready because this is what we got we and and this is the other thing too a note from me I'll talk about myself don't try to perfect the plan crystal yeah it's okay yeah it's okay if you want to have spaghetti tonight but you forgot to take the meat out of the freezer right it's okay it is okay go to the store and buy a pack that's defrosted or choose a mist yep it's okay no I like that and you know it it just reminds me of even the last episode or the yeah the last episode no the first episode around like keeping life simple um simple keeps you sane like that's just what it is we overcomplicate things when we don't have to and a lot of times we're making these decisions and I don't want to say this is everyone but sometimes we are making decisions just to impress other people and we don't need to do that. It's not about how others feel I feel like that can kind of go into another point that you and I kind of made the the third um like practical tool around just like lowering the pressure that we experience.

SPEAKER_02 25:56

Yes so if I lower the noise right take time to you know be sit in the quiet ask for quiet make the request with the people in your house before you snap at them ask for it. If I lower the decisions I'm making or reduce the decisions I'm making keep it simple um it is easiest I think for those of us who like to try to we are working through our issues with control. It is easy for us to struggle with those two things because we feel this pressure to be on all the time or I'm the one who's always been doing it. If I don't do it it's going it's not going to get done um or it's not going to get done right or well all these different things we tell ourselves and there's so much pressure and that pressure is just more stress. And then I know even for me then I'm mad at myself because I'm now I'm stressed out about something that I really said that I was going to try to avoid in the first place. It's just old cycle that I know I'm not alone. Right. You're not so lowering the pressure for me looks like literally me saying okay this is my cutoff time this is I'm not and I decide for the day what I'm not going to do anymore whether it's laundry whether it's watching a television show whether it's this is this is the time I'm cutting off taking calls or social media that's it this is the time and that does not have to be the same time every day.

SPEAKER_01 27:27

Yeah it can definitely fluctuate I think for me it looks like sometimes and I and I hope that you know someone else can take this and sort of telling yourself like you don't have to solve everything today.

SPEAKER_02 27:42

No it might be a tomorrow problem.

SPEAKER_01 27:44

Yeah it might be a tomorrow it might be a next week it might be a next month problem like you don't have to find the solution when the problem presents itself and I feel like even through this week when I talked about just like feeling overwhelmed and kind of overstimulated with all of the things it's because I kept trying to find a solution for everything right then and there. And sometimes it's okay to just say I can't solve this I I don't even know where to begin to solve this. So how do I move about my day? And yes we know that there will be some issues that come up where you have to find a solution in that moment. But then when you go back to how do I silence the noise how do I you know lower the decisions you'll find that clarity to not put pressure on yourself to have the perfect response or the perfect solution. You'll just be coming from a place of you know what here's how I can solve this in the moment here's how I'm going to do this and this is the best I can do. Like today it's nothing else I can do today.

SPEAKER_02 28:50

Yeah you know it's not lost on me that some of the things that um women struggle with are universal. And then also what's also true is that even though some of our struggles are universal the way we navigate them based on the resources we have i e the support system spouse your finances whatever that you know that's not we're we're all not dealing with the same playing with the same hand or same deck of cards some women um are doing it on their own and they're doing it well but they might just be like I can't I cannot pause yeah I can't I gotta see like these babies or this is my business and if I don't go to work and the business going to be closed for today whatever the issue may be and we get that um but pausing doesn't mean you have to stop everything. No sometimes pausing is just talking to yourself with kindness of course we talked about before about the fact that you don't have to be um in a position where you're solving everything today like you mentioned Felicia right um you don't have to try to carry everything on your own all the time um have you paused to consult God about what is yours to carry today have you paused to consult with God about um how you are feeling in your body if it is overwhelmed if this is the stuff God wants you to carry he is always going to give you what you need to carry it there's never been a doubt in my mind about that. Do I try to still fix it on my own first and then have to go back to God like oh yeah I forgot right that has that's happened. But there's a scripture that talks about tomorrow worrying about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own so we don't have to keep dragging tomorrow into today today is already enough it just is so tomorrow have its own grace just like it'll have its own troubles and worries and stress you have enough strength you'll have enough your God will give you what you need for today if you ask him that's why I love the our father prayer so much for a lot of different reasons but one of the one of the parts of the prayer says give us this day our daily bread God give me what I need for today. So figuring out the next six months is not necessary.

SPEAKER_01 31:28

Not all the time I mean unless you're trying to plan a trip or something you know right that's my two cents about that no I I love that because it also it it provides an invitation for you to not pause but also to provide yourself with affirmation go to God in prayer when you are feeling anxious but then it also kind of you know invites us to look at ourselves from a space of just because we're feeling overwhelmed or just because we're feeling like we have reached our capacity it does not necessarily mean that that's a character flaw of ours. And just simply saying I have these emotions that exist right now and I am carrying too much and because I'm carrying too much I do have to take some of those practical tools that we just provided lower the noise lower the decisions but also lower the pressure that you put on yourself so that you can live and you can rest in his word while you make those decisions.

SPEAKER_02 32:34

Yes I I just want to challenge our listeners to um just just try it. My granny used to say that it might have been a thought she was like just try Jesus Crystal just try and you'll see yeah you can because sometimes some things you do have to know for yourself. But because we are as independent as we are and so as resilient as we are oftentimes we do go into the day and we haven't we I mean we pray you know God thank you for waking us up and clothes and food and all the things but have we asked God to give us what we need for today give us the strength we need for the day the wisdom we need for the day the understanding the courage the confidence whatever it is have we asked him that um and I don't think a lot of us do therefore we end up in the you know it's noon and it's like oh dang I may am I prepared for the second half of the day oh look now my account is beyond negative because someone's in it and somebody calling me to pick up the kid or whatever and not that those things would not have happened had you prayed but will you have what you need to handle those things.

SPEAKER_01 33:49

So just try try Jesus and see um like that I'm glad you do I think you know because uh Matthew 6 and 34 is the scripture um where it talks about don't worry about tomorrow for tomorrow has enough worry of its own um that is not me ignore your responsibility I'm not saying that um but it's kind of like don't borrow stress from tomorrow and bring it over into today why why do that to ourselves so lower the noise lower the decisions lower the pressure we can take some of the pressure off when we consult with God about what it is that we actually need um and we don't have to give all of our energy to all of everything everything not deserve or require even all of our energy no I like that okay so we are at the point of the episode where we provide you all with some fuel for the road ahead so again another moment for you to pause this is no pressure at all it's just a check in but we want to leave you with a reflection question this week so if you need to pause grab your journal pull your phone outs app or whatever to write this down here's your reflection question what's the biggest thing draining me right now I I need to journal this myself so say mine the longest thing so yeah I'm gonna I'm gonna answer this one for sure yeah good um y'all this is it's crazy to think that when you and y'all let us know in the comments as you're watching andor listening it's crazy to think that we our generation we most of us have the type of mamas and grandmamas that we never really saw them sitting down.

SPEAKER_02 36:00

And when I saw my grandma sitting down she was shucking peas or folding some clothes. It's like I just didn't see her resting or relaxing a lot. And so um that's ingrained in a lot of us and so naturally we feel some type of way when we're sitting down doing nothing. But I want to challenge our listeners to get in the back seat figuratively speaking and look out the window just chill to put your feet up and just chill out. Get you the coziest blanket my listen my sister in law may or may not be listening but she has literally demonstrated for me the beauty of doing nothing. Sometimes I text her like hey sis what you do nothing and she'll send me a picture and she have her glass whatever she wants to drink or her cup whatever she's enjoying and her blanket up to her chin or just on her back she relaxed I love that for her it doesn't matter what needs to get done yes it doesn't matter it can get it'll get done just either not by me or not today. Yeah and that's okay I'm be praying that God will give us all what we need to recognize when we are doing too much or doing the most whatever language you want to use when we're doing too much when we're doing the most when we're carrying what he did not ask us to carry God give us what we need show us what needs to come off of our plate help us to be able to rest and not feel guilty when we rest help us to notice when we are help us to stop talking to ourselves in such a nasty way.

SPEAKER_01 37:35

No I like that okay so if you've been feeling like you're overreacting just know you might just be at your capacity and being at your capacity is not your identity okay it's just the signal so again we will say just lower the load give yourself permission to breathe and know that we are there with you if you need to hit us up at all and just say like in the comments this is me we will stand together because it's also us okay we will encourage you all and let you know that we all are there but we'll also remind you that it is okay to pause because pause does not mean that you're stopping if you haven't done so yet we would love for you to subscribe to the YouTube channel make sure that you like this podcast episode and the previous episodes as well share this with anyone that you love for the person that you may not be fond of right now share it with them too because we appreciate we appreciate that you can also um subscribe to our email list our email community we send out emails throughout the week with um additional gems from the episode that can be helpful for you but we just want you all to know that we love you we appreciate you so much for all of your support and we will talk to you next week all right y'all peace all right